Relationship problems do not always arise from either one's fault. It can be first started from the accumulation of tiny, small, inessential interactive moments of nothing special, like seeds, and then ignited by an explosion of a moderately bad, unsatisfying moment, like nutrients making the seeds germinate.
Relationship problems are frequently inevitable. In a situation in which there are some problems occurred within a couple whom you know both of them quite well, what would you do if one of them seeks for help? I have a friend who is interested in knowing the problems but reluctant in giving any response.
And this friend of mine, he was very reluctant. Probably he's thinking that giving comments/responses means interfering and taking part in the complications, as I asked for his advice on it, he responded 'We shouldn't be interfering/bothering much about it (because it's other people's businesses)' Perhaps he thought that saying out his thoughts would have to blame one of the lovers. He also said the another one of the couple (both we know well) doesn't like people to intervene in the business. What do you think?
I find some people acting very strange. 'No comment', that's their quote, as if they were very rational, mature, good at problem solving. Well, I find that funny, for someone harboring a lot of thoughts to say 'no comment' in a smiley, opinions-filled face.
That's as annoying as in a situation where someone in a group saying 'I'm okay with ANYTHING as our dinner' but end up saying 'I don't want to eat thattt!' after we have decided to eat something.
Firstly, saying out your thoughts of opinion is not wrong.
Secondly, you don't have to judge who is wrong and right (although you can), as relationship problems are not directly caused by something/someone.
Thirdly, when your friend seeks for help, you are not asked to justify who is wrong, but you are actually asked to give advice on what to do (to make themselves happy, to stop the problem).
Fourthly, you think reaching out a helping hand looked childish when you look back years later. I think you are childish for being afraid to realize you yourself was once childish. Funny and too dumb!
Fifthly, why wouldn't you want to help when your friend asks for help? Just because the other friend involved doesn't like people to intervene, and so you can't even give an advice? or, at least, say something to make people feel better?
:l That's all for my complaints. He's just so wrong. And I wouldn't want to change him. Why would I?
I've just finished watching a new short Thai TV Drama, Club Friday Series 5 -ตอน ความลับของหัวใจที่ไม่มีจริง(The Secret of a Heart That Doesn't Exist). It actually ended few weeks ago.
I'm getting REALLY REALLY sad because A) it ends B) it's a very realistic sad story. Whenever I heard the songได้พบเธอ by Pchy I feel as if my whole world stops for its sadness.
If you have been watching Thai movies, you will know The Love of Siam, which is one of the first few Thai movies that I've watched and it made me quite sad.
The Love of Siam, when both Mario and Pchy were young back in 2007
But this Club Friday Series is different, it made me REALLY REALLY sad. The story was just... sad.
Firstly, (from what I know from Internet, which means it may not be true) Club Friday The Series is a TV drama series based on real story of Club Friday audience. Club Friday is a Thai radio program that allows audiences to phone-in for telling about love/sad stories of them.
And this time, Pchy from The Love of Siam and BIE KPN (which is REALLY GORGEOUS) are the main cast in this drama.
BIE KPN is actually Thai Taiwanese, that's why he can speak Thai and Mandarin. Woww! That mixed blood is making people (me) so envious T.T
But God is fair right, his fingers don't look that good. Okay it sounds more like self-consoling yes it is T.T
The story is about a little boy (university student) who faces disorientation and problems that are not suitable to discuss or seek help from his family or friends. He tries to ask for help in the Internet and meets another guy whom he then falls in love with. He does a lot of things just for the guy, but at the end, he doesn't know if the love between them ever exist in reality. Hence the name 'The Secret of a Heart That Doesn't Exist'
ALERT!
YES, this is VERY GAY to watch!
It's not meant for homophobic people. But PEACE! We're living in 21st century right.
The story begins with Boss having a few potential lovers, his high school friend and his senior. As he started to feel something about his male senior, he feels uncertain about his feelings with his friends and with his senior. He shares his problems in the net and here Wynn appears as a 'counselor' or something like that, giving his philosophical advice. It turns out Boss doesn't choose any of them and in fact he runs away, after realizing he might be gay... and the saddest story unfolds T.T
Boss feeling puzzled about his feelings
Wynn gives advice on Boss's problems.
And it turns out the setting of the story (about his high school potential girlfriend and senior) doesn't play a major role in making me sad.
The contents with ITALIC below may contain spoiler......
Wynn is a nicey nicery hot guy. When Boss loses his family, he builds everything back to him. They are so sweet that I can't help screaming when I'm watching.
But good things never last, right? When I thought it will be a sweeeeet story, something just comes out, or changes. People always say, hot guy changes (laughlaughlaugh). And it happens on Wynn. He starts to give Boss cold shoulders. Boss doesn't know how to adapt the changes. He is unhappy. But then he keeps blaming himself of being childish and selfish, he keeps apologizing to Wynn to keep him back. But to Wynn, nothing matters anymore. It seems like there are someone else between Wynn and Boss. There are a few times in which I think something can be done and fix everything, but things are often not so easy.
It seems like Wynn are going back to his ex-boyfriend. And then, what do Boss left? His family seems to despise him for his sexuality. His sister and brother once humiliated him. He was so sad and tired that he left his family and ran towards Wynn. But now he has nothing again.
The most touching part is where he goes back his home. His mother scolded him, not for being gay or having one night stand picture uploaded on the Facebook, but for not picking up phone.
She said 'Do you know? Every day I was so worried about you. It's only me worrying about you.' But then she asked 'Have you eaten?'
Boss cries. He said 'every one hates me.'
She said 'Mum doesn't. You're my child.'
Then he cries 'Mum, please, you must love me.'
This drama is very realistic and you can see it in life often. I guess it's damn true that when he decides to go, he will go no matter what we do, will he? And it's damn true that we cry and apologize to get him back. It's damn true that we even plead or beg his return. It's damn true that we pull his shirt just to remind we're still there. It's damn true that it looks like long-lasting love. It's damn true that we're then sad, lost ourselves, we can't stand the loneliness. We often find someone else, whom we never love, never like, and someone else who don't even have the face that we adore, the figure that we find attractive.We just hook on it, hook on the warmth. And we wake up of emptiness, with someone we never know sleeping beside us, and without the memory of last night. And then we run away, as fast as we could.
Then we're back to the point where we have started, realizing the warmth we need is love. And we realize it's all there in home.
After you've read everything, if you're ready to face the dark and bright side of reality, if you're still interested, here I represent the trailer of the whole drama..... the beginning of the story.
Here's one of the OST.I feel extremely sad whenever I listen this song after watching the whole drama.
